Baby showers are meant to be happy, stress-free events, but one mom-to-be says her recent shower was anything but that. The teen mom has now taken to Reddit to vent her frustrations, which all started with the appalling behavior of her boyfriend's family. In fact, it was so bad that the young mom felt compelled to leave her baby shower early, causing an embarrassing scene that put a damper on the whole day.
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According to the Reddit post, the mom-to-be is 19 and her boyfriend is 21
Despite being young, the couple were excited to learn they were pregnant and can't wait to become parents to their baby boy. And now that the anonymous poster is seven months pregnant, the chance to celebrate her baby's impending arrival with friends, family, and loved ones was something she was really looking forward to.
That is, until things took an upsetting turn.
"My boyfriend's family is pretty traditional, and they weren't too happy that we were having a baby out of wedlock," the woman explained in her post. "They've been pretty distant and cold towards me since the announcement, but I thought that maybe the baby shower would be a chance for us to bond and put our differences aside."
Unfortunately, it quickly became clear that was wishful thinking
"From the moment I arrived, my boyfriend's aunt made snide comments about my age and how 'young mothers never know what they're doing,'" the mom-to-be shared.
"Then, his brother asked if I was planning on getting a job after the baby was born, implying that I was just going to mooch off my boyfriend for the rest of my life or something," she continued.
But the real kicker came when she started opening gifts
While everyone was gathered, her boyfriend's mom handed her a gift bag filled with baby clothes.
On the surface, it was a sweet gesture, but when the young mom looked inside, she was confused by all of the pink.
"When I politely pointed out that we were having a boy, [my boyfriend's mom] rolled her eyes and said, 'Oh, well, I just assumed that since you're so young, you probably don't know the sex of your own baby.'"
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That proved to be the final straw
"At that point, I was done," explained the poster. "I stood up and announced that I didn't feel welcome there and that I was leaving."
While her boyfriend tried his best to settle her down and convince her to stay, the mom-to-be says she was too upset and simply walked out.
"Now my boyfriend's family is calling me rude and ungrateful for storming out of my own baby shower, but I feel like they were the ones being disrespectful to me," she says at the end of her post. "I’m especially hurt that my boyfriend’s family thinks I can’t even care for my own child."
Now, she's asking for advice and wondering if she was in the wrong after all
The verdict was swift on this one: She was definitely NTA (Not the A–hole) in this story.
"You didn't feel welcome because you weren't welcome," one commenter noted plainly. Also, the commenter found the MIL's insult to be "the strangest 'dig'" they'd ever heard. "Young moms not knowing the sex of their babies is … not a thing," the person added.
"The pink comment was ridiculous, and I don't understand why they are not equally disapproving of their son for having a child young and out of wedlock!" another person said.
Someone else commented they wouldn't have been able to hold their tongue if their MIL said this.
"I would've added, 'I guess you aren't interested in being a part of your grandchild's life,'" one person wrote in the comments. "'Too bad you don't know the rule about being kind to the mother if you want to see the baby.'"
In fact, a lot of people were quite critical of the boyfriend's reaction
(Or rather his lack of a reaction.)
"The fact your boyfriend didn’t tell his family to back down and stop treating you like s— is even worse than their behavior," one person wrote. "You’re NTA but your boyfriend’s family is and I’m even considering him one since he clearly didn’t support you and stand up for you."
Other commenters were also firm on this point.
"While it might sound harsh, you need to have an immediate and serious conversation with your boyfriend about how he is going to handle the situation going forward," someone else commented. "If he is not willing to immediately step up and advise his family to stop their crap and treat you with respect, then you would be very well advised to start preparing to be a single mother."
Though there hasn't been an update yet from the poster, we sure do hope that her boyfriend's family sees the error of their ways — and that either way, he stands up for the mother of his child like he should.
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