
A mother on TikTok recently shared a video of her baby’s first birthday party, which should have been a sweet memory to look back on. But instead, it just makes her mad all over again because of what her husband does at the end of the clip. And now, after the video has gone super viral, it’s making other people pretty mad, too.
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The TikTok was first shared earlier this week by @Candie1983
In it, the parents stand on opposite sides of their baby, who is sitting in a high chair outside with a cake placed in front of him.
Gathered around them are close friends and family, who soon start singing “Happy Birthday” cheerfully.
@candie1983 The time I wanted to choke my husband for putting out son smash cake in my face, surrounded my family i had just met for the first time. I had long look forward too our son 1st party and the family pictures… we didnt get but one photo before i had to shower. Not sure why he thought this was a good idea… I cried like a baby at the memories lost, cake was even cut while i showered If he does tbis ever again, he wont live to talk about it. #firstbirthday #ourson#12months #1stbirthday #firstbirthdayparty #fyp #foryoupage #husband #dumbhusband #notcool ♬ original sound – Candie1983
For most of the video, nothing unusual happens
The song ends, the parents remove the candle from the cake, and they try to encourage their little guy to make a mess out of it.
But instead of diving right in, as most babies tend to do, the 1-year-old looks a bit hesitant. He stares at the cake and even pokes his finger at it a few times, but his mom and dad are the ones trying to encourage him to do more.
At one point, the dad even gets down on the baby's level
Once there, he tries to push the little guy’s hand into the cake and even puts a little frosting on the tip of his finger to let the baby have a taste.
But if the couple was expecting their son to go ham on the cake, they were sorely mistaken. Instead, cute photos were taken of his slightly frosting-covered hands before the dad ultimately removed the cake from the high chair.
But that's when things take an abrupt turn ...
Because, for whatever reason, the dad thought this was as good a time as any to prank his wife.
While holding the cake in one hand, the video shows him moving closer to his wife until he’s just a few inches away. Then, he swiftly shoves the cake right in her face — much to the shock and dismay of everyone around them.
As gasps and screams are heard in the background, the video promptly cuts out
But if you’re wondering how the mom felt in the moments after getting caked, she lets loose in the post caption.
“The time I wanted to choke my husband for putting our son smash cake in my face, surrounded by family I had just met for the first time,” the mother wrote. “I had long looked forward to our son’s 1st [birthday] party and the family pictures … we didn’t get but one photo before I had to shower.”
As for what her husband was thinking? She’d like to know, too.
“Not sure why he thought this was a good idea …,” she continued. “I cried like a baby at the memories lost, cake was even cut while I showered.”
Finally, she ended her post caption with an ominous warning: “If he does this ever again, he won’t live to talk about it.”
(Yikes.)
Clearly, the wife wasn't happy with what went down
But after sharing the clip on TikTok and receiving more than 2.6 million views, thousands of strangers weren’t happy with it, either.
“I will never understand people who find humor in publicly humiliating their spouses,” one person commented.
“The way I would actually lose my mind if this happened to me …,” someone else shared.
“Not on my baby’s first birthday,” another person wrote. “It’s a big milestone for us moms, too. I’m sorry.”
A slew of other comments, however, were even more cutting
Some people started bashing the husband in all sorts of creative ways.
“I get weird vibes from him,” wrote one commenter. “Your feelings are 100% valid, I’m sorry.”
“His flip flops told me everything I needed to know, honestly,” said another, while someone added that they were a definite “red flag.”
(To that, the mom replied that they live in Florida, where everyone wears flip-flops year-round.)
“The whole time before the end I was thinking is he drunk or something,” one person noted.
“The excessive licking of the babies hands makes me feel reallll odd about this man,” said another.
But the most heated comments came from commenters who said the incident was grounds for divorce.
“Divorce immediately,” urged one person.
“That’s a man who does not respect you and doesn’t take no for an answer,” said another person, who also suggested divorce.
“Would’ve been ex-husband from there on out,” slammed someone else. “Can’t imagine how he is as a dad and partner.”
In response, the mom did defend her husband as a father
She called him a great dad, who’s devoted to his kids. That said, the incident still weighs on her.
“How he did me … set completely aside … he is a wonderful dad,” the mother insisted. “Very hands on and loving.”
As for “getting over it,” though, that has taken some time.
“I haven’t, nearly a year… I haven’t,” she told one commenter. “I think it was the turn we haven’t recovered from. I’m trying though.”