Back in the pre-kid days, your sex life may have been varied and nuanced – different locations, different positions, hey, maybe even with different people. But as most married parents know, sometimes it can be a struggle to find the time, energy or even desire for any type of sex with their partner at all.
There’s so much other stuff that can get in the way of sex once you have kids.
While some new parents feel overwhelmed by all the additional work that goes into taking care of a child, others may have put their own health and fitness on the backburner, making them feel less into the idea of getting naked with their partner.
But at the end of the day, sex is something that helps you stay connected as a couple, so in most cases it’s best to just do it – even if you’re tired, even if you feel less than sexy, even if you have to be awake with a little person in a couple of hours.
If you’re having regular, routine sex as a parent, consider that a victory!
But there is one type of sex that all married parents should try, and it doesn’t require any special skills or equipment and it doesn’t cost a thing. Daytime sex might sound like a luxury you can’t afford, but trust me, it can be a game-changer for your relationship.
What is it about having sex while the sun is shining that makes it so hot? First of all, for most new parents, it’s out of the ordinary to do it during the daytime. As moms and dads, our sexy time often gets relegated to those few moments between brushing our teeth and falling asleep, so getting it on during the day has that novelty appeal that makes it so exciting.
For some people, it's also one of the few times you’ll actually get to see your partner while making love.
So many of us do it with the lights off, under the covers, in the dark. Daytime sex beckons you to look at your partner and to be seen. I know – that thought can be scary, especially for underslept parents but believe me, your partner WANTS to look at you — and you’ll be surprised by how much of a turn-on it is to see each other in this new light (literally!).
Most of all, the hottest thing about having daytime sex with your partner is that you get to feel like you’re stealing time together. How often do you allow yourself to take a break during the day that’s purely about pleasure? Having an afternoon quickie (or a not-so-quick encounter) is a way of saying that the relationship matters to you.
So, the next time your spouse is home during the day (or the next time you can pay a visit to their office), make the most of that time and you might be surprised how it invigorates your relationship.
Remember, it only has to take as long as you want it to, but the effects of that afternoon delight can last into the coming days and weeks and help you start to see each other in a new, sexier light!
