Preparing Your Kid for Her First Sleepover

Pillow fights, crush talk and makeovers, oh my. Your child's first sleepover is an exciting endeavor that's sure to leave lasting memories. While it's an event to look forward to, that first time away from home can be a little daunting for your little one. Every child has her own needs when it comes to separation and closeness, so make sure that she's ready before pushing her into something she isn't ready for. "There is no right or wrong age," noted Deb Castaldo, a child and family therapist.

If your child has not spent time at the house where he'll be staying, take him for a trial run, suggested Castaldo. "Go visit the friend's house together and see the surroundings. This can help diminish any fears of the unknown the child may have." Your child will get to know the other family members better and gain sense of familiarity with the environment.

Talk about what kinds of activities and events your child can expect at the sleepover. For example, she may not sleep very comfortably if she's on the floor or in a bed that's unfamiliar to her.

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If you know your daughter is nervous about being away for very long, reduce the number of hours she'll be over at her friend's house. Susan Bartell, parenting psychologist and author of "The Top 50 Questions Kids Ask," suggested starting the sleepover on the later side and picking her up early in the morning.

Let your child know she can call you if she becomes too distressed or even scared in the night, no matter what time it is. "Make sure you discuss where you will be and how they can reach you," Castaldo advised.

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Encourage your daughter to check in with the host parent if necessary. The on-site mom or dad can help solve any potential disputes between your child and the other girls or soothe nerves as needed. If she is feeling scared or anxious, your child should know it's OK to let the grown-ups of the house know.

Packing a few of your child's favorite things smooths out rough spots and keeps that feeling of connection to home. "Pick out familiar things that can provide comfort in your absence," suggested Castaldo. That includes favorite toys, pajamas or a stuffed animal. "You might want to give them a small trinket or something to remind them of you in your absence."

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Keeping the lines of communication open with the mother of your child's friend can head off problems if they arise. "Tell the other mom it is your daughter's first time so she understands and is patient," advised Bartell. You can tell your daughter you did this to ease her mind or, if you think it'll embarrass her, not mention it.

Emphasize the one and only reason for sleepovers: having fun with friends. "Encourage them to take pictures and send them to you if possible or send them with a small diary to write down all the fun they had," suggested Castaldo. "They will look back in years to come with fondness."