What to Know
In a video you’d swear was sarcastic but is apparently genuine rage bait, a stay-at-home dad wonders—out loud and publicly—why stay-at-home moms complain, because being a stay-at-home parent is so easy! It’s the kind of video where you’re waiting for the punchline because surely this man doesn’t have a death wish in 2025, but alas—he’s dead serious. And worse, many dads have his back in the comments.
“To all the stay-at-home moms, I feel like you’re lying,” begins TikTok user @cassandrian. “Because of what I do for work I can still stay at home and pay all the bills, and my wife will have to go to work to make her money. And I have a one-year-old daughter.”
He goes on to describe how simple it is to feed her, change her, and let her take her scheduled naps. This is also known as “meeting her basic needs,” which is the bare minimum parents are legally required to do, but I digress.
“I can still make sure the place is clean,” he continues, patting himself on the back. “I can make sure the whole apartment is clean, while watching her, before 12.”
Oh, okay dude, sure…
Let’s start off by addressing the fact that he’s caring for one child, who is only a year old. Caring for a 1-year-old can be manageable for some people, in some circumstances, sure. But one person’s experience doesn’t cancel out the realities of millions of parents—especially those juggling multiple kids, postpartum recovery, mental load, lack of support, or financial stress. Just because something is easy for one person doesn’t mean it’s easy for everyone.
Secondly, dads are held to the lowest possible standard on earth. Women are expected to be perfect.
The problem isn’t whether one dad finds staying home easy. It’s dismissing women by calling them liars instead of recognizing that parenting labor is shaped by sleep deprivation, recovery from birth, societal expectations, and unequal mental load. And he neglects to mention how he shows up for his wife—is her dinner on the table when she gets home? Is her laundry done? Are her needs met the way she expects them to be met?
The comments section is full of men just as insufferable as the creator, unfortunately.
“I was stay at home dad for 5 years w 3 kids. Easiest job I ever had. Cooked, cleaned, laundry, clean sheets every week, hiking, beach, sidewalk chalk, diapers, music anytime I wanted, it was like vacation every day,” one guy says.
“The excuses are insane. I was laid off for 6 months with 2 kids. Easiest 6 months of my life,” says another.
Please take your “truth” and keep those thoughts to yourself.
There is a certain kind of delusional confidence that only comes from confusing your own limited experience with universal truth. Enter the man who announced that being a stay-at-home parent is “easy,” and that moms must be lying—because he, personally, finds it manageable while caring for his one-year-old daughter. Congrats. Add in an infant and a couple of pets, then talk to the rest of us.
Declaring motherhood “easy” because one man is having a decent time with a toddler isn’t brave honesty—it’s the loud confidence of someone who has never been required to think beyond himself. Godspeed to this man’s wife, because UGH.
