What to Know
If you could go to wife school, would you? It seems like a wild concept; someone who knows nothing about you and your marriage telling you how to be a better spouse. Honestly, the whole thing sounds like a scam. Based on that, it’s no surprise that Jessa Duggar has begun promoting a Christian wife school on social media. The members of the Duggar family will promote a lot of things if it fits inside the Christian branding they let dominate their lives. And while many people seem to be on board, a lot of people are saying “no thanks.”
She recently shared the video on her Instagram account.
Jessa started the video by noting how “In Christian marriages, a husband and wife can be deeply committed to each other and genuinely love one another and yet still experience a good bit of tension in everyday life.”
The solution for that, she’s found, is doing a program called Wife School by Christian author and influencer Tilly Dillehay. It’s hard to understand exactly what the program is suggesting wives do, but from what I gathered, it’s focused on ways a wife can be better without also forcing her husband to be better.
She called the lessons “incredibly practical for real marriages.”
“Many of us have never noticed the way we speak and respond influences the thermostat of our homes,” she said.
Apparently, the course is strictly focused on how to be a better Christian wife.
“This course isn’t about changing your husband or carrying a responsibility that isn’t your own,” she swears. “It’s about personal growth — learning to steward your words and your tone and your communication within marriage.”
I decided to take a peek at Dillehay’s Instagram, and after some digging, it seems that Jessa Duggar is promoting the idea that if you talk nicer to your husband, he will be more inclined to be a good husband. Because Christ doesn’t like a nag.
She suggests doing the six-week course with a group, encouraging her followers to “make it a girl’s night.”
Despite many women being ready to sign up, some people think Jessa Duggar has finally gone too far.
The Reddit community Duggar Snark loves to rant about and judge the things the family does publicly. And I can’t say that I blame them. Unlike the many women who commented on Instagram that they want to join Jessa in being better Christian wives, the people in the group think she’s totally full of it.
“Reset expectations, better yet don’t have any! That way if he’s a lazy piece of s–t you won’t be disappointed,” one person wrote.
“Practice proactive submission? No thank you,” someone else wrote. Someone replied, “Don’t think I could be proactively submissive even if I tried with all my holy might,” while another said “Proactive submission? She puts the moron in oxymoron.”
Another commenter wrote, “I just cycled from ‘this can’t be real’ to ‘this is insane’ to ‘this is so sad’ in record time– and that’s saying something, because I run that cycle about a dozen times daily.”
