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Newborns. They’re tiny, adorable, and super cuddly. Who doesn’t love to visit them? But when it comes to stopping by for a visit with your own kiddo, dropping by without notice isn’t something anyone should do. It’s not that the new parent wouldn’t love some company, but there are a few rules for visiting a newborn everyone should keep top of mind.
Especially with Covid-19 and new diseases spreading faster than we’d like (Monkeypox, we’re looking at you), it’s essential to check with the parent before showing up unannounced. It’s not that you or the child you have in tow would mean to pass on any germs or viruses, but ignoring these rules for visiting a newborn could lead to them getting sick.
So before you make plans to snuggle up with that new bundle of joy, consider your timing, how to make the visit as safe as possible, and what you should bring with you as an additional safeguard.
Timing matters: When to visit a newborn
1. Timing matters: Wait it out
So you’re considering stopping by to see that sweet little newborn you’ve only seen in photos. But how soon is too soon? Keeping in mind that newborns are too young to be vaccinated and don’t have an established immune system, it’s probably a good idea to take your time. “An infant’s immune system doesn’t mature until they’re about 2 to 3 months old,” pediatrician Camille Sabella, MD, told the Cleveland Clinic.
“In those first few months, the immune system — especially cell-mediated immunity — becomes more developed. This is very important in helping a child fight off viruses,” Dr. Sabella added.
The general consensus among pediatric doctors is that between age two to three months is ideal. “The flu, RSV, or other viruses are dangerous to an infant who can’t fight them off,” shared Jorge Perez, MD, a neonatologist and founder of Kidz Medical Services.
“Newborns can have visitors but with precautions. Parents should consider limiting the number of visitors the baby is in close contact with,” he added.
Safety first: How to visit a newborn
2. Don’t let your kiddo invade too much of the baby’s personal space
Whether it’s your new, niece, nephew, or your BFF’s itty-bitty newborn, many people are super excited to visit this little bundle of joy for the first time, especially other kids.
This is the closest to an actual baby doll they’ve ever been and understandably, they’ll want to touch them, hold them, and be right in their face. Unfortunately, their curiosity could increase the risk of getting the baby sick, so model for them how to visit a newborn. Or, depending on their age and maturity level, you might let them sit out the visiting until the baby is a little older.
Mom of one, Stephanie B., shared how she kept her newborn visits as safe as possible. “My son was born in May of 2020, and we waited until 3 months to let grandpa visit with a mask. It was hard having to show him off through our slider door to all family and friends who wanted to stop by.”
3. Consider if it’s better to just leave your kiddo at home
Visits with a newborn can be optimal if your kiddo really, really wants to meet the baby, but it’s also important to keep in mind that everyone you’re about to visit is tired. The new parent(s) are tired, the baby will be tired, so make sure your kid actually wants to be there. Also, it’s worth mentioning again and again that if you do visit, there are precautions to have in place — especially with any kiddos who tag along.
Think about letting the kids visit virtually, for now. These are easy to schedule, and may be a great way for a new mom to keep the visit germ-free, and best of all — exhaustion-free.
4. Wash your hands and mask up
This may seem like a no-brainer, but before anyone holds that little bundle of joy, hands should be washed and sanitized thoroughly. As tempting as it can be to touch their face or smother them with kisses, don’t.
Wearing a mask while you’re visiting or holding a newborn adds a layer of protection for them. Aside from your Covid vaccination status, even common cold germs or a stomach bug could make life incredibly miserable for this little one.
5. No kissing, please
Everyone loves kissing babies — can you blame them? But believe it or not, those smooches can pose a serious risk of viral meningitis. Karin Nielsen, MD, professor of pediatrics at UCLA’s David Geffen School of Medicine, says infants are particularly vulnerable to HSV-1, the herpes virus that causes viral meningits.
“In the specific situation of herpes simplex virus or HSV, some people may have cold sores around their lips, or just start manifesting them, and kissing can transmit the virus to others, particularly to infants, who are more susceptible as they have no prior immunity,” Nielsen told Healthline.
What to bring to a newborn visit
6. Bring along something to help the parents out after you leave
Of course, a little one can never have too many new outfits or onesies. But new parents also love kind gestures and considerations to give them a break. You might consider:
- Home-cooked meals. There are a million and two different slow-cooker meals or dinners that can be frozen for later that will be a welcome gift to the new parents.
- A little self-care goes a long way, whether it’s a fun, easy read to get them through long feeding sessions or a new body wash that is relaxing. And self-care isn’t just limited to bringing gifts that bring a spa-like feel home. It’s also about offering to help out and give the new parents an opportunity to rest. Do some dishes, fold the laundry, pick up their grocery order, or simply just rock the baby while they lie down for a while.
7. If you’re in doubt, sit this one out at home
Keep coughs and sniffles at home. It goes without saying if you’re even the littlest bit sick, please stay home. There will be plenty of time to reschedule when you’re feeling well, which will also give new parents peace of mind.
