Thinking positively and visualizing yourself achieving your goals is supposed to be helpful. I do like to imagine what life would be like with another baby in the house, but I’m not sure it’s helping me to get pregnant.
When we were trying for our first, I recall people practically shoving their babies at me. “Oh, just hold her. Maybe it’ll rub off,” a friend once said.
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At that time, we’d already been trying for more than a year and my emotions were delicate and fragile. I had mixed feelings about being around other people’s babies and celebrating their pregnancies. It was difficult to process feelings of joy tinged with jealousy and sorrow. The emotions were too muddled.
Most of the time I loved to snuggle babies, though—especially newborns. Smelling their sweet scent and looking into their squishy faces would hit me right in the ovaries. Every. Single. Time.
The notion that holding more babies would finally kick my body into gear seemed silly to me, though. I mean, really: How is holding a baby going to make me ovulate and ensure it’ll get fertilized?
The notion that holding more babies would finally kick my body into gear seemed silly to me though. I mean, really: How is holding a baby going to make me ovulate and ensure it’ll get fertilized? And implant? And all the other science that goes into the process of conception. How?!
It seemed as ludicrous as the idea that pregnancy could somehow be contagious if you hung out with too many pregnant ladies. Except, somehow, that seemed to be the case with my first.
Throughout the time we were trying to conceive our first baby, I was working as a case manager assisting adults. About the time I gave up hope of getting pregnant on our own, I was selected to work with a new pilot program. This program was exclusively for pregnant women and women who recently gave birth. I was excited to work with these ladies.
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It may have purely been a coincidence, but once I began working with my first few clients, I found out I was pregnant. After nearly three years of trying to get pregnant, we conceived naturally after I started working in this new program surrounding myself with new mamas and mamas-to-be.
I still look back at how my pregnancy progressed right alongside that program. I can’t help but wonder, will we conceive Baby No. 3 once I start taking on postpartum doula clients? Either way, it can’t hurt to try surrounding myself with lots of babies again.
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