During both of my pregnancies, I was placed on bedrest — the first time for three months at the hospital and the second time at home. I’ll be completely honest, neither experience was pleasant, but I’m a firm believer that every difficult moment in our lives is a lesson for us to learn.
If you were also put on bedrest like me, you may be feeling frustrated, stressed out, sad, and sometimes even relieved that you are doing everything you can to make sure your unborn baby is as healthy as possible before giving birth — but don’t lose hope. Here are some things I did to overcome the obstacles that came with being on bedrest.
Make a schedule
I found that making a schedule really helped me get through bedrest — even if I wasn’t going anywhere far. I liked to start my day by getting ready no matter what. Throwing my hair in a towel and doing my makeup to make me feel new was a great way to start the day, regardless of who may have been visiting that day. If possible, I liked to schedule Zoom dates with friends throughout the week which, if we’ve learned anything from the pandemic, goes a long way when combatting feelings of isolation.
Take advantage of hospital programs
Did you know the hospital has plenty of programs that you can take advantage of to get through bedrest? I made sure to ask my social worker to always keep me apprised on what they had to offer, from outdoor group hangouts with others to having dog visits. They do such a great job, and it really helps fill the day with joy. One day, I even had the chaplain come in. Long story short, say yes to anything that they can provide!
Get outside (if allowed)
Of course, there were days when I wouldn’t have the energy to do anything or even get ready or be social via Zoom, but I always made sure to go outside for some fresh air around 1 p.m. no matter what. Not only did it help clear my head, it also gave me something to look forward to.
Invest in your comfort
In my downtime — and there was a lot of it — it was so important for me to keep it comfy. I literally lived in Storq legging and Mate the Label, which made me feel cute while also being at max comfort. I also invested in a great pillow from Pottery Barn, which was a true lifesaver, for keeping me upright and just to give a good squeeze.
Try to eat healthy
In addition to comfort, I made sure to keep my diet in check instead of slipping into full comfort mode (even though I was totally craving mac and cheese). Bedrest is unbelievably hard on your mental health, so a good diet can be a make or break sometimes. There are plenty of mood-boosting foods that will make your gut and your mind feel great — like dark chocolate.
Buy a lap tray
Oh, and while we’re on the topic of food, the one invaluable tip I have if you’re experiencing bedrest: Get a tray! You’ll thank me later. Plus, it doubles as a workspace if you feel so inclined to be productive somedays. Win-win!
Get a therapist
Being put on bedrest is an emotional time no matter what, so I made sure to get a therapist during the months I was down and out. I took full advantage of the services the hospital was able to provide me and got started with a therapist before I let myself get too down.
That being said, there is nothing wrong with breaking down. If you’re on bedrest or know someone who is, remember: It’s OK to cry and let it out. It’s therapeutic in its own way.
Remind yourself that this is not permanent, there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and do little things throughout the day that keep you positive. I tried to find time every single day to laugh, whether it was at memes or by watching a funny movie. Staying positive and happy is the best thing you can do for a high-risk pregnancy, so try to balance the ups and downs as best you can!
Ask for help
If there’s one thing I took away from my experience on bedrest, it was the love and support I got from friends and family. I leaned on them more than ever, and I’m so grateful to have had so many people in my life that were there for me in my time of need. It takes humility, but asking for what you need (whether it’s walking the dog or to provide some food) will go a long way.
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