A mom of two on TikTok is explaining the difficult choice she had to make for her family, and people are mad at her for it.
Kim Beyer shared in a series of videos that she divorced her husband of 18 years after realizing that she could no longer properly care for him or their children after he suffered a brain aneurysm in 2015. When they divorced, he went back to his home country of Germany to be in the care of his family.
People in the comments are calling Beyer all sorts of bad things, despite her explaining that the divorce was "the most loving thing that I could do for him."
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Beyer explained that the 10 days her husband, Mattias, was in a coma were a "gutting experience" and that she had shut herself down emotionally to keep going, which means there are lots of things she doesn't remember about that time.
When her husband unexpectedly woke, his doctors told her he would "never be capable of meaningful human connection ever again" because they had to remove a part of his brain.
Eventually, after a lot of rehab, her husband was able to come home. Her mother moved in to help care for their two children who were toddlers at the time. But then Beyer had to get a job to support their family.
"He was here, but not really," she explained. "Physically here but staring through, and not aware of his surroundings."
His family lives in Germany, which is where he was born and raised. And although his family couldn't come to the States to see him, Beyer shared that she would take him and their children to Germany for extended visits. During the visits, she said that he would "come alive when he was there."
She reveals that his family asked her if she would consider moving their family to Germany so he could have better care, but Beyer was hesitant to move her kids, who were 7 and 10.
She also explained that before his aneurysm, her husband told her that if anything happened to him, he would want her and their children to continue living their lives.
"I started to wonder if the most loving thing that I could do for him was to let him go into a better situation where he's finally getting the care that he deserves," she said.
Beyer explains that she, her husband, and their families got on a call to make the difficult decision to divorce and have him move back to Germany. They took time preparing their children and community for such a big change.
At the airport, she thanked him for being a great husband and apologized for the way their relationship ended. But she knew that he would be getting a level of care that wasn't available to him in the United States, and it would be unfair to keep him from that.
“Why get married? Why make the vow of 'in sickness and health' if you don't mean it?" one comment reads.
"Horrible people. You should be there until the very end. You promised,” someone else said.
"Till inconvenience do us part," another person wrote.
"Wow what happened to better or for worse I would’ve been packing up my kids going with him," a person commented.
In a final video, Beyer revealed the state of her divorce from her husband and where their relationship stands now.
"Some of you seem to think he's still a vegetable, and he's not," she says, explaining she would never leave him in that state.
She also recorded one of their video chats to show those following their story that they're still on good terms. Her husband was able to show off the improvements he's made physically, and revealed that he has good and bad days, but is constantly learning to get better.
"A lot of people online don't like me," Beyer says. "Some people are saying that I didn't help you. Do you think that I helped you?"
"Yes, very much. Very, very much," he replied.
