The relationship between a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be extremely complicated. One woman turned to Reddit's "Am I the A–hole" to get advice on a situation she is facing. She doesn't believe that her son's wife has a "respectable" job, and has forbidden her to have contact with her nieces until she gets one.
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"My DIL, Sara, is close to my daughters kids (2 and 4). My daughter, Maddie, lost custody and I have custody now.
"My son isn’t around much due to his job and can be away for months at a time. There are respectable jobs and not respectable jobs. My DIL doesn’t have a respectable job, she works at a call center trying to scam people. According to her, she is looking for a new job but has been saying that for a year," the woman explains.
"This is the first time she asked to see the kids. I told her I will not allow her to be near them until she gets a respectable job. That her morals suck and I have told her before to get a respectable job. That they are young children I don’t want them around her."
"This started an argument and her calling me a jerk for keeping the kids away from her. My son is on my a– about it," she continued.
After someone questioned what kind of call center her DIL works in, the woman commented, "They try to get peoples bank info by pretending their is a virus they need to fix and getting access to their computers. It’s messed up and that company department has been shut down before then keeps popping up."
"NTA, I wouldn’t let anyone that tries to scam people near my kids either. That type of person with those moral will never be near my kids. Same with people’s who are discriminator, these types of moral are to be no where near my kids," one person commented.
"NTA. Going into this, I was worried you were judging her cuz she had an Onlyfans or something. But yeah, scam callers are terrible. They prey on gullible people, usually elderly people, and steal their money. I like to watch scam baiters on YT in the background while I work and it’s disgusting how far they will go trying to rob people," another said.
"NTA, going by your expanded explanation of what that call center does she is a literal criminal. You are completely within your rights to not want a criminal around young children who are in your custody," another person added.
"YTA, hands down. You're obviously on a power trip now that you have custody of your grandchildren (and ngl, I have my suspicions that you obtained that in a shady manner, as well). Pretty sure it's safe to say that you were against your daughter allowing her children to see their aunt (and yes, that's what she is. She's married to their uncle, so she's their aunt) from the start. Personally, if I was your daughter, when I got my kids back, you wouldn't be seeing them anymore. You took a loving relationship away from those kids, for no real reason other than your own (most likely, unwarranted) hate. That is the definition of TOXIC," one person said.
Another person made this point: "Is she in a situation where she is desperate for money? Because the job market is extremely tight and sometimes your options are a job you despise and don't feel good about or homelessness. It's not uncommon to be job hunting for a year and not have anything come up, that's literally me right now, I HATE my job, but job market is extremely tight and I'm f–king stuck until I can get someone else."
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