20 Things Your Husband Wants You To Stop Saying Now

We ladies are notorious for not meeting confrontation head and saying we're over it just to make things nice, but days, weeks, even months later we're still stewing. He's moved on, but you haven't. So don't say you're over it if you're not. The in the moment confrontation will be far less excruciating than you bringing something up months later because you were still pissed off.

Don't compare your husband to his friends or to your friends' husbands, not unless you want him to start comparing you to other women. Ouch.

Teenagers say, "Whatever," but sometimes so do spouses who can't express themselves. One of the keys to a healthy marriage is saying what's on your mind, not rolling your eyes and speaking like a teen.

While it may be infuriating to hear how tired the hubs is from his day at work when you've been juggling your own work and the kids, but nobody has ownership on fatigue. Turns out most men and women are tired, not just us gals. So instead of minimizing your husband's feelings simply reply by saying, "Me too."

If you have a helpful husband who is willing to take some of the household chores off your plate, don't correct him when he does. Men often complain of feeling criticized at home, which makes them less inclined to be helpful. And you don't want that.

Unless one of the kids is going to be injured or harmed in some way, let your husband parent his way and you parent your way. If you're the primary caretaker, you're more inclined to have a right and wrong way you want the kids looked after. But if you want help, it's best to keep that to yourself and be happy your kids have a dad who is involved.

Nobody wants to be reminded they are just like the parent whom they least admire. And brining up extended family issues can only lead to tension and fights. So unless you want to hear how you're just like your mother, don't go for the low blow and tell your husband he's just like his dad. Even if he is.

You may run a tight ship, but your husband wants to feel like you're his wife not his mother. So be careful of over correcting him. Women hate domineering husbands. Guess what? Men hate domineering wives, too. Even if they don't say so.

In the heat of an argument, sometimes it's easy to say "You always…" or "You never…" rather than citing specific examples that have you upset. Try to avoid the general "you always" and be specific. It'll help solve the problem and won't make your husband feel like you are constantly keeping score of his failings.

You may not love all of his friends, he may not love all of yours. Regardless, criticizing his friends won't make them go away. It'll just make your husband feel uncomfortable whenever you're around his friends. Or worse yet, he'll exclude you when he's hanging with them.

Job searches can be draining and can leave one feeling defeated. So if your hubs is out of work or in the market for a new job, be supportive rather than interrogating him regarding his process. If you're worried about him finding a new gig, just know that he is too.

Nobody really wants to feel like they are constantly being compared, for better or for worse, to the one who came before. So avoid brining up your ex all the time. If he was so great, you'd still be with him. And if he was so awful, why keep talking about him?

We've all been on the other end of the email or text that says, "I need to talk to you…" It's never followed by good news and just makes someone sweat it out until it's conversation time. So don't. Just don't. Unless you're trying to make your husband have a bad day.

You know you don't want to hear the answer and he knows you don't want to hear the answer, so why ask? It drives guys nuts because it's a total no-win conversation. And chances are if you're asking, you already know the answer.

If you didn't, do say you did. You're not doing the hubs any favors, nor yourself. Eventually, you'll want to sex to be mutually satisfying and that won't happen if you don't speak up when you didn't.

Most women want a successful husband and that means he's going to have to work hard. He wants to hear your support, not your complaints when all he's trying to do is succeed at work.

If your husband works outside the home, chances are he wants to spend more time with the kids, too. He doesn't need to be nagged and reminded. So if you want him to spend more time with the kids, suggest fun activities they can do together rather than being mad he didn't drive the kids to that birthday party—at which he wouldn't talk to them anyhow!

No husband wants to hear the opinions of all the friends in whom you confided your family's personal business. So if you have something to say, say it. Just don't quote your squad. Your relationship is two people, not the whole crew.

There's nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex, but there is something wrong with nagging at your husband whenever his female friend's name comes up. If you trust your man, lay off. And if you don't trust your man, address that directly without making it about his female friends.

The best way to get your husband to stop being helpful is to criticize the way he does everything. Eventually, he'll check out. If he hasn't already.